Maybe we’re out of place because our focus is misplaced.
When was the last time you rewarded yourself for being kind or doing a good deed? I bet that most of us don’t. I bet that most of us place our value in our achievements and successes and NOT in the value we hold in the lives of others. I bet that we don’t really focus on being there for others as much as we focus on why others should be there for us.
I’m not saying that we shouldn’t dream or work hard for our dreams – I’m saying that we can afford to invest in the dreams of others, working hard to love, and to give, and to encourage. Because our dreams and aspirations and plans are never more important than the dreams and aspirations and plans of those we care for.
People are so truly essential in our lives. They can be harmful and hurtful (much of the time), but they can also be a rather wonderful part of who we are and who we will become (most of the time). They are necessary reminders – of the past, present and future; of the lessons they helped us learn and the stories they helped us create. And if we aren’t serving them then why would we be here? Selfish and self-indulgent, hoping to be admired and praised for what we do instead of who we are.
We must always remember what matters – happiness before success, love before grief, giving before receiving –because all we really are, are the memories we leave with people.
Anastasia Amy 